Expression of sadness

Everyone in the world must have felt the sadness in life. Until you feels the world very CRUEL against 

you.

a.     Definition

Sadness is emotional pain associated with, or characterized by feelings of disadvantage, loss, despair, helplessness and sorrow. An individual experiencing sadness may become quiet or lethargic, and withdraw themselves from others. Crying is often an indication of sadness. Sadness is one of the "six basic emotions" described by Paul Ekman, along with happiness, anger, surprise, fear and disgust. Sadness can be viewed as a temporary lowering of mood, whereas depression is more chronic.

There is some expression of sadness:

·        My heart is so burdened

·        I can’t tell my pain and sorrow in words

·        …. Comes as my great sadness.

·        I’m so sad to hear it.

·        I’m very sad about ….

·        I can’t believe what’s going on.

·        I can’t hold my tears on it.

·        Oh, no ….

There us some responses:

·        Yes, I understand it.

·        Sorry, I didn’t know that it will make you sad.

·        Really? I’m sure (she/he) didn’t mean it.

·        Yes, I am also sad since I will miss you.

b.      How to eliminate feelings of sadness

Here are some ways to experience normal sadness in a healthy way and to allow this emotion to enrich your life:

·         Allow yourself to be sad. Denying such feelings may force them underground, where they can do more damage with time. Cry if you feel like it. Notice if you feel relief after the tears stop.

·         If you are feeling sad, plan a sadness day.Plan a day or evening just to be alone, listen to melancholy music, and to observe your thoughts and feelings. Planning time to be unhappy can be actually feel good. It can help you ultimately move into a more happy mood.

·         Think about the context of the sad feelings. Are they related to a loss or an unhappy event? It's usually not as simple as discovering the "cause" of the sadness, but it may be possible to understand factors involved.

·         Sadness can result from a change that you didn't expect, or it can signal the need for a change in your life.Change is usually stressful, but it is necessary for growth.

·         Know when sadness turns into depression. Get help if this happens rather than getting stuck in it.

Expression of Love

What do you think about LOVE? What do you feel? Now I want give you all about Expressing of Love.

a.    Definition

Let’s start by looking at the definitions of terms used to refer to people in love or love itself.  

• Adore: Loving someone very much
• Affection: A tender and warm feeling toward someone; extreme fondness.
• Amore: The Italian word for love.
• Amour: A very serious love affair, usually a secret.
• Cherish: Have great affection and caring for someone.
• Court: Another word for dating which refers to the man trying to convince the woman to marry him.
• Enchant: Attracting someone, or casting a spell over them.
• Fancy: Has a strong liking or love for someone.
• Flip over: To be totally infatuated with someone.
• Hold dear: To have a lot of affection for someone
• Hots for: Slang expression for desire for someone.
• Idolize: To totally love someone and not see their faults.
• Long for: To really want someone.
• Magic: A term for a feeling of love.
• Passion: A very strong love for someone.
• Rapture: The feeling you get when you are in love.
• Spark: The attraction between two people.
• Sugar baby: A nickname for your partner.
• Treasure: Consider valuable or rare
• True love: Your lover or soul mate
• Worship: To adore intensely.
• Yearning: A very strong urge to be with someone.

Here are expressions if you want to express your love:

• I cherish you.
• I want a lifetime with you.
• I adore you.
• I am better because of you.
• I need you by my side.
• I cannot stop thinking about you.
• My love for you is unconditional and eternal.
• I really love you, my princess.
• You’re my everything.
• Nothing will change my love for you.

Here are responses from your love:

• Thank you. I love you too
• I will keep my love for you, my soulmate.
• I can’t tell you how happy I am being your love.
• I hope only death will separate us.
• You don’t need to say it since I had already known.

b.    How to express your love.

To properly build and maintain loving feelings between you and another person, it is important to show them that you care about them in ways that they will understand and appreciate. As described in Dr. Gary Chapman's book, The Five Love Languages, there are five categories for expressions of love, and every person is innately attuned to one type of expression above the others. Learning each mode of expressing caring feelings will help you improve the quality of your closest relationships.

· Discover what makes the person feel most loved. Try different methods, and see what generates the most positive response. It may be something that you are not accustomed to doing, but if your intent is to express love to someone, you should learn to do it in ways that the person will appreciate most. Note that no single method works for everybody; some might feel loved by it, while others may not. There is no universally effective approach, even for a particular "love language"; each language has distinct "dialects" within it, so pay attention to what works best.
The five love languages are (in no particular order):

·           Words of Affirmation

·           Quality Time

·           Acts of Service

·           Physical Touch

·           Gifts

· Speak words of affirmation. Some people's longing for love and acceptance is best satisfied by positive verbal (and written) statements. Express gratitude and appreciation for what they do. Give them compliments and encouragement. Tell them you love them. Try to vary the words you say in expressing your caring for the person to prevent repetitive statements from becoming tiresome.
While speaking positively in all respects engenders loving feelings in those most attuned to words of affirmation, harsh or condemning words will have the opposite effect, sometimes causing deep emotional wounds that may never be fully forgotten. Because words can have such profound impact, the most important thing is to be positive instead of judgmental in what you say. Learn to praise people's admirable qualities and worthy efforts, and replace criticism with constructive advice if it's warranted.

· Share quality time. Those who prefer quality time want to do things together. Take notice of their preferred activities, and try to initiate some time together in doing those things. Engage in quality conversation. Go hiking. Play games. Plan and work together. Whatever you do, spend time with them, not just near them. Giving them your attention is what is most important.

· Perform acts of service. Parents often ask it of their children, and husbands and wives ask it of each other, but service can be a lot more meaningful to some people. Cleaning around the house, preparing meals, doing laundry, yardwork, and various other chores can be a very loving expression to someone. Look for ways to help your loved ones with tasks that will help ease their physical, mental, or emotional burdens. Your service may be especially appreciated when it's unexpected.

· Initiate physical touch. Many forms of physical contact can be a warm, loving gesture. Hold hands. Pat or rub their back or arm. Give hugs. Be receptive to appropriate gestures of physical contact, and choose suitable times to freely embrace your loved ones.

· Give gifts. Objects can be emblems of one's love, as tangible, visual reminders. They don't have to be expensive or long-lasting; home-made gifts and even temporary things like flowers and food can be very effective displays of affection. Just be sure that you don't rely too much on past gifts to convey evidence of your love for the person; give often.
To those who are more emotionally appreciative of gifts, one's physical presence can also be particularly valuable, with one's body in a sense being an emblem of devotion, and "being there" for them at stressful moments, simply staying close, is especially meaningful.

· Expand your expressions of love into multiple approaches. Incorporating other languages in addition to the person's primary love language will better demonstrate a well-rounded expression of caring about them. A person might place high value on more than one love language, so be sure to try them all. Also, don't limit yourself to just one or a few methods of expression within a language; you may later discover an even more effective demonstration of your love.

· Express love regularly. For important relationships, especially with your spouse or other family members, be sure to demonstrate your love often, continually expressing your caring for them in a myriad of ways, especially in the language that they understand best. It is widely believed that "it's the thought that counts," but the thought counts only when the gift or other expression of love is actually given. Concealed love benefits no one.

Granting Request

•      STANDAR COMPETENCY

Mengungkapkan makna dalam teks percakapan transaksionl dan interpersonal resmi dan berlanjut dalam konteks kehidupan sehari-hari.

•      BASIC COMPETENCY

Mengungkap-kan makna dalam percakapan transaksional (to get things done) dan interpersonal (bersosialisasi) resmi dan berlanjut (sustained) secara akurat, lancar dan berterima dalam konteks kehidupan sehari-hari dan melibatkan tindak tutur: mengusulkan, memohon, menolak, membahas kemungkinan atau untuk melakukan sesuatu.  

•      INDICATOR

1. Mengidentifikasi makna tindak tutur memohon.
2. Merespon tindak tutur memohon.

DEFINITION :

Granting requests is to express a wish or ask for to grant a request in a polite or formal way often followed by an infinitive or by a clause beginning with that.

EXPRESSING GRANTING REQUEST :

- Asking someone to do something:

                        • Can you give me the…..?

                        • Could you phone me at…..?

                        • Would you mind repairing my watch?

                        • Do you think you could take me to the shop ?

                        • I wonder if you could write me an application letter? 

-Asking someone for something:

                        • Can I borrow your pen?

                        • Could I have a seat?

                        • Can’t I sit beside you?

                        • May I use your computer?

- The expression to accept it:

                              •      OK

                              •      Sure

                              •      All right

                              •      Certainly

                              •      It’s a pleasure

-  The expression to refuse it:

                              •      I’m afraid, I ….. (give your reason).

                              •      I’m sorry, I can’t.

                              •      I’d like to, but…(give your reason).

There is an another of granting request

ATTENTION!

When you ask someone to do something for you, or ask if you can do something, it's important to sound polite. Here are some of the common ways that you can do this.

- Asking someone to do something for you

     "Could you open the door for me, please?"
"Would you mind opening the door for me, please?"
"Can you open the door for me, please?"

     Note:

     could  and can are followed by the verb without to.

     Would you mind  is followed by the verb and -ing.

- Asking if you can do something

     "Can I use your computer, please?"
"Could I borrow some money from you, please?"
"Do you mind if I turn up the heating?"
"Would you mind if I turned up the heating?"

     Note:

    Could  is more polite that can.

    Do you mind if… is followed by the verb in the present tense, but

    Would you mind if… is followed by the verb in the past tense.

     

     When you're using these two sentences, you don't use please. It's already polite!

EXAMPLE OF GRANTING REQUEST :

Diva    :  Hey, merry.

Merry  : Hi, put.

Diva    : What are you doing?

Merry  : I’m looking for my pencil. It’s lose.

Diva    : Oh, don’t worry fortunately I have two pencil here.

Merry  : Really? Can i borrow your pencil?

Diva    : Of course

Merry  : Thanks